The Books
Three companion books designed to support clear thinking about boundaries, responsibility, and care—written for adults, youth groups, and children.
They are intended to be used together, but may also be used independently depending on context.
Things Boundaries Are Allowed to Do
(An Incomplete List)
This book is written for adults who lead, teach, supervise, or care for others. It offers a clear framework for understanding boundaries as self-limits and responsibilities rather than rules imposed on others.
It is commonly used by parents, pastors, educators, volunteers, and safeguarding committees as a formation resource that supports prevention and accountability.
- Audience: Adults (parents, leaders, volunteers)
- Use: Training, discussion, review, formation
- Context: Homes, churches, schools, child-serving organizations
Things Boundaries Are Allowed to Do for Youth Groups
(An Incomplete List)
This book is designed for teens, youth volunteers, youth pastors, and senior leadership to read together. It focuses on prevention, responsibility, and shared expectations in youth group settings.
Using short, declarative statements, the book addresses how harm most often develops quietly over time, what healthy boundaries are allowed to interrupt, and what adults must agree on before working with youth.
- Audience: Teens, volunteers, youth pastors, senior leadership
- Use: Youth group training, staff onboarding, safeguarding review
- Context: Churches, ministries, youth-serving organizations
Things Boundaries Are Allowed to Do for Kids
(An Incomplete List)
This book provides children with simple, permission-based language for understanding boundaries, listening to their feelings, and asking for help.
Each page presents a short statement and includes space to draw or color while a trusted adult guides the conversation. The book avoids fear-based language and does not prompt disclosure.
- Recommended age range: Pre-K through 4th grade
- Use: Adult-facilitated reading and discussion
- Format: Short statements with space for drawing and reflection
Using the books together
When used together, the adult book establishes shared responsibility, the youth group book supports prevention and accountability in group settings, and the children’s book provides age-appropriate language that reinforces safety and trust without placing burden on children.
Review and ordering
These books are available through standard institutional channels, including IngramSpark. Many churches and schools begin by reviewing the adult book and safeguarding materials.
